Do you feel like you don't just like a person romantically, you are obsessed with them? You think of them day in, day out. When they speak to you your entire day is made, but eventually it wears off and you are left insatiable, feeling uncomfortable and tetchy, maybe even anxious or feeling depressed? Perhaps you may be experiencing limerence ... Limerence, a term coined by psychologist, Dorothy Tennov in the 1970s, is an intense infatuation and obsession with another person

"If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can't survive" - Brené Brown. You might know the feeling, a series of unfortunate events, a jumper getting caught on the door, feeling your sock sitting uncomfortably in your shoe, or someone not quite understanding what you're saying. Sometimes it builds quite rapidly. Let me start by saying anger is a good and human emotion. Sometimes known as a 'boundary' emotion, it helps us to stay

When a fear of abandonment feels like a threat to life ... Do you have those nagging, persistent thoughts? "they are pretending to like me/if they really knew me they'd hate me!/They'll find something out about me and reject me/ I'm too much!". Perhaps you overthink every sentence you say, notice every move and emotional change within your partner, trying to navigate the idea that they are just getting ready to leave you ... If only you could control every element to ensure t

It's day 11 in the big brother house of life - and we're all asking this question. Imagine from Shutterstock. 'are you seeing what I'm seeing? Are we together in this?' As a counsellor, I often hear the question: “How do I cope with all of this (XYZ)?” and within that question, I usually hear two other elements. Firstly, I'm overwhelmed and I need stats on this because I feel I'm in over my head , but also secondly, I want to keep going, I want to find a way . When people ask

The period of the new year can feel unsettling, scary and can contribute to low-mood, self-loathing, and rumination. In my work with clients I have found that the new year unearths old fears as well as the existential dread of growing older and not being at the stage in life that they may have hoped to be or believed that they 'should' be at. These themes can lead to spiralling anxiety which can lead to us self-flagellating and deciding that the answer is to work harder, to p

When people think of therapy, they often picture a couch in a stuffy, clinical room, expecting to be told what’s ‘wrong’ with them and...

You do not have to be good. You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting. You only have to let...

Never was there a more perfect time to start a blog for you all than in the spring, the period well known for its fresh starts. However,...